Just finished watching Ok Kanmani on Netflix for the nth time. Apart from the leads, there’s a story of an elderly couple where one of them suffers from forgetfulness. There’s a scene towards the end where the lead couple resolve their differences by asking each other whether they’ll be able to love and live like another elderly couple.
It’s interesting how we are always looking for reference points to make a leap. The decision could be anything, but we feel more comfortable when there’s a reference point.
Is it about keeping it as a goal ? Or as they call it, “Relationship Goals” ? While talking to a friend, we ended up discussing about a mutual couple and how their life is like Hashtag Relationship Goal for her. And yes, the couple is adorably cute and I cannot blame her or anyone for thinking that way. There are tons of other Hashtag Goals. Traveling goals being the net big thing.
What’s it that entices us to look at someone else or their lives or what they do and see ourselves doing that? Why that is our reference point ?
The books we read, the movies we watch and the amazing people we meet, each bring to us a certain lifestyle and mindset which we want to achieve. Ofcourse, there can be another set of people who might despise those very things. Be it the movies, the books or the people and try to run away from that life choice.
If we think in-depth, we’ll realize that we’ve always been like this. All our life choices has been based on a few reference points or a culmination of many others. When we see others we see the good we want to see. The reality might be different from what it appears but our viewpoint is what can shape our own reality.